I think Plan B gets a bad rap. Plan B is what you do when the perfect and ideal Plan A falls through.
Most people never want to even think about Plan B.
Until they have no choice.
When Plan A is no longer an option.
When all of your resources have gone towards the first plan, it is natural to feel overwhelmed and frankly out of ideas and energy when confronted with the prospect of coming up with a new one.
But Plan B has an advantage that Plan A will never have.
Plan B happens after you’ve experienced the heartbreak of losing Plan A. And that heartbreak has taught you some valuable lessons about yourself and others that can help you to make Plan B truly brilliant.
The end of Plan A has brought you more compassion, empathy, gratitude and sensitivity than you had before. The ending of Plan A has shown a light on how strong you are and how resilient.
Plan A has taught you lessons about what is truly important to you and given you clues how to maximize that the next time.
Plan A was idyllic and should be mourned. It was a great plan.
Plan B is going to have a tough time living up to it.
But thanks to the lessons you’ve learned, you can make the next option a great plan as well.
You may even need Plan C, D or E.
And each one will have the plans that came before it to thank for the experiences and lessons learned.
Now I know that you would very happily turn over all of the lessons and compassion gained to just go back to Plan A.
But there comes a time when you have to accept that Plan A will never be an option again. It’s painful to know that, but it is more painful to deny it.
It’s part of the human life that we are living that Plan A isn’t the one and only option for us. We all experience a loss at some point in our lives and some may feel more tragic and intense than others.
Losing a loved one, getting divorced, receiving a scary diagnosis, losing a job or many other losses will come to us all at some point. It’s important to process that grief by fully feeling the feelings that come and by honoring the loss, but it is also important to start thinking about Plan B when you feel ready.
You know how precious life is and how valuable is our time on Earth. The best way to honor your loss is to live a life well-lived.
In the words of Sheryl Sandberg, “I promise to do all I can to kick the shit out of option B.”
I hope you will make the most out of your next plan.
If you’re feeling lost and not sure where to start, download my new Five Tools to Rediscover Life After Loss guide. It can give you easy and concrete tools to help you move towards living an loving your brilliant Plan B.
And I would like to share this,
“Life is All About How you Handle Plan B
Plan A is always my first choice.
You know, the one where
Everything works out to be
But more often than not,
I find myself dealing with
The upside-down, inside-out version —
Where nothing goes as it should.
It’s at this point that the real
Test of my character comes in..
Do I sink, or do I swim?
Do I wallow in self pity and play the victim,
Or simply shift gears
And make the best of the situation?
The choice is all mine…
Life is all about how you handle Plan B.”
― Suzy Toronto, The Sacred Sisterhood Of Wonderful Wacky Women