When did honesty become such a rare commodity and when did it become something that you have to declare instead of it being a given?

Putting the current political climate aside where no one really even agrees on what a fact is anymore – which is just insane, let’s be real.

Why is honesty so rare?

This all came to mind when I was meeting with a real estate agent (which I really like), but he said, “I’m honest” and it struck me as such a weird thing to say. Shouldn’t we ALL be honest. And why do we have to make it clear to people that we are honest? It’s like declaring I drive a car or I’m an American or I like pizza. I know these aren’t always true, but for the most part, if someone lives in middle America, it’s true, and it isn’t necessary to mention it.

Maybe the problem is that I’ve always assumed people were honest, that it is a value we, as a human race, share.

I guess that could be the sticking point here. I mean, people can be cruel, kill each other, cheat on each other, steal from each other and so on.

I’ve always loved this Billy Joel song, but the lyrics are kind of depressing:

“Honesty is such a lonely word
Everyone is so untrue
Honesty is hardly ever heard
And mostly what I need from you.”


Honesty can also be so complicated. We all tell white lies to people to spare their feelings and the person we lie to the most is ourselves.

What would it be like if we did embrace honesty as a core value?

What if it was a non-negotiable given?

Because in the end, the truth will not only “set you free” as The Bible states, but it is also what we need the most from each other.